Creativity Higher Consciousness

Anger

In the film Anger Management starring Jack Nicholson, Adam Sandler and Marisa Tomei a mild-mannered businessman after a misunderstanding regarding some in-flight headphones, is ordered into an anger management therapy program by the court judge. In this often funny film inward directed anger is described as something that will ultimately seek release sometimes with devastating consequences as happens with mass murders.

Anger is a natural emotion that readies us to address a perceived threat. Deep and persistent anger can arise from repressed emotions. If a person wants to be a master of their own destiny but represses their desires because they allow the desires of others to take precedence and if this situation is allowed to continue for a long time then it can result in deep and persistent anger.

Anger can be turned inwards or outwards. Outward directed anger causes arguments, disputes and can sometimes cause fall outs between people. In its milder forms it is good for venting frustrations and perhaps clearing the air. Inward directed anger causes the bearer to become increasingly frustrated over time and may transfer to outward directed anger suddenly and ferociously. If this does not happen then internally held anger will ultimately destroy the bearer.

Why do we sometimes persist with untenable situations? Perhaps we cannot see a way out and need help in this regard. Is it sometimes down to our own insecurity, fear of the unknown or fear of going against the crowd? Maybe it is based on some early ideas planted in our minds of scarcity, imagined or real dangers, strong reactions to challenges to authority or maybe some situations are just not that clear cut and we feel that tradeoffs have to be made. Whatever the reason we need to either get past it or learn to live with the ambiguity for a while and then get past it.

It really comes down to our perception of reality. If we consider our daily interactions to be all that there is then we can be totally consumed by them and at the mercy of the prevailing wisdom. However if we view it as a microcosm that can be changed, influenced or exited then the picture is very different. We create our own realities so we should not subsequently complain about them. If our realities are wrong it is because we are inauthentic and not aware of or aligned with our true nature when creating them. We have created this reality so if we don’t like it we should scrap it and create another one. If the law of attraction is correct we have to consciously stop creating this reality and begin to create the desired one.

Testing is a methodology that can be used for those of us who are skeptical about the law of attraction. Pick your worst and most deep rooted fear and face it on order to change your perception of it. Three things can happen here. One as you go deeper into this you get nervous and ultimately lack the courage to face your fears. You back off and come away with your fears reinforced. Two you crash and burn. This outcome is not very likely or three you crash and burn to some extent but survive and come out the other side. To move on from the third possibility has a lot to do with our perception of what has occurred. Sure it has been a painful experience, one you might well want to avoid in the future. Choosing this interpretation causes a reversion to option one and your fears are reinforced. Another interpretation could be, hey you didn’t die and what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger. The latter interpretation enables you to move on from here and get past the blocker on the basis that though the experience was unpleasant your very worst fears were not realized and were shown to be unfounded. Theoretical pursuits are fine as an aid to understanding but it is in the doing of a thing that we really learn. We have to literally crash through the barriers and escape into the greater freedom outside.

Sometimes anger can result from a feeling of powerlessness. When we bend our will to the will of others do we kill part of ourselves? In the modern world is it necessary to do this in order to conform to societal norms in jobs and social situations? Perhaps we can we best serve others by being who we truly are. After all if we are not our authentic selves what do we have to offer others? Anyway we can never really control others and if we try to do so we will ultimately be disappointed. If you accept the premise that we are all connected to one consciousness then to be angry towards another is the same as self directed anger and just as damaging. We can only seek to control our own actions and our own emotions to some degree and be aware of the intrinsic power we do have as human beings. Others cannot really cause us to feel anger we choose to feel it ourselves. If you are allowing something or someone to cause you to feel angry you have two options, one get as far away from them or it as fast as possible, or two change your attitude.